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Asking Others to Have Faith When We Didn’t Have

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By Kathryn Farris. Isidoro pulled a handkerchief from his pocket and caught the tears that streamed down his face as he received the first copy of the Mixtec New Testament he helped translate. Others who attended this dedication service were also in awe because they were receiving the Scriptures in their own language. Many of them had not believed their language could even be written. They certainly did not expect a work of such magnitude.

Appreciation for their language as a written tool of communication, however, is a relatively new concept for the Mixtecs. When Ed and I and our three children moved to Yosondua in 1969 to learn the Mixtec language, most of the people were curious but they were not anxious to have their language written nor to have books produced. What purpose would it serve? One man summed it up by saying, “Aren’t these people in the United States for you to mock? Why did you have to come here?” Clearly our work was cut out for us if we were to have a ministry among the Mixtecs.

First, we had to understand them and appreciate their culture. We learned they call themselves the Rain People, not Mixtecs, the name the Aztecs gave them when they swept down and conquered the region. These Rain People have a history rich with stories of brave warriors, conquests, extensive trade, expert craftsmanship and advanced agricultural methods. Some of these accounts are recorded in picture-writing (codices) and are preserved to this day. Their ancestors, who worshipped the sun, passed on stories about the creation of the world and other phenomena that occurred on earth.

They traditionally moved in family groupings and maintained only minimal contact with outsiders. In fact, the Yosondua Mixtec language does not have words for friend or neighbor. Those who lived near them and with whom they socialized were relatives, so the word jnahan served for relative, friend and neighbor. In more recent times they borrowed the Spanish words for friend and neighbor and use them today as part of their language and pattern of living.

Today the Yosondua Mixtecs, who live in the state of Oaxaco, number approximately 8,000. While many continue to speak only Mixtec, or the Rain Language, some have become bi-lingual speaking both Mixtec and Spanish. As farmers they raise corn, wheat, beans and several varieties of squash. Many of them practice the art of weaving baskets with intricate designs.

Even though they were conquered by the Spanish, they survived and have emerged as a strong, quiet people who are intensely loyal to their beliefs and traditions. Today, as reserved people, they are slow to accept change and innovative ideas and they cling tenaciously to the traditional values of their culture.

Understanding this, we realized we would probably not see them accept changes during our time with them. We had faith that God’s Word would one day make a difference, but not for a long time. We also wanted to see them with improved farming techniques, a better understanding of hygiene and the ability to read. The mainstream of Mexican life was impinging upon them and we wanted them equipped to adjust to the changes. We asked people to pray for these projects but to especially pray that the Mixtecs would be transformed by God’s Word into his children. Not to the cautious and reserved Mixtecs.

We were wrong! Wrong in our lack of faith and in our “realism.” Change came. For the catalyst, God chose Basilia, who grew up an orphan girl, unable to read or write. Her world consisted primarily of caring for her family and tending to the goats and sheep. Her husband, Isidore, made a commitment to follow Christ while working with Ed on the translation. But instead of growing, he reverted to his old ways and began drinking. Things fell apart for the family. Finances were so bad he decided to try his luck in Baja, California. There was no gold at the end of the rainbow in Baja and he began the trip back home dejected. While he was gone, some men came to Yosondua with a film on the life of Christ. Townspeople directed them to Basilia since her husband had once identified himself as a believer.

The idea of seeing a film intrigued Basilia, and she invited her neighbors to join her. That evening her one-room log house was full. The film was novelty but the message a powerful force. It challenged them as nothing else had ever done and they determined to learn more.

Isidoro returned to a wife who was different and neighbors who showed an interest in the message they had laughed at earlier. His surprise became boundless when they asked him to teach them the Bible. He had helped with the translation of the New Testament and he surely must know a great deal, they reasoned. He could barely fathom all that was unfolding. One thing he knew, he was a failure. He had not stood firm in the truth. That night God changed Isidoro’s heart, and our dreams began to materialize.

From that nucleus of believers a church of over 200 people emerged. They have dared to step out of the cultural mold to reach neighbors, friends and acquaintances with the message of salvation. And how their lives have changed. Men who had once been enemies now work side by side. Drunkards are sober. Sick children are well. Women are treated with new respect. Men take their work for the school or town seriously. Land that lay neglected is tended and produces a harvest. People prosper and live in peace. Such changes for the Rain People. An impossible dream come true! Thank you for praying.

Adoption–Not Abortion: Exciting Vision-Tough Realities

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By Frederick T. Marsh. Approaching the temple gate called Beautiful, Peter and John came upon a man, lame from birth. He knew what he needed: a handout. Peter and John knew better. If they gave the man alms, they would, in the words of one author, “be confirming his lameness.” A temporary need would be met, but the message to the man would be clear: “You are lame. You are not capable of doing anything that will contribute to your support.” Peter and John had a far superior alternative: the healing power of Jesus.

About fifteen years ago, leading voices in society were telling us they could give us alms when it came to addressing crisis pregnancy needs. These voices argued that abortion would solve a lot of societal problems. Many were swayed to that way of thinking-perhaps the problem population of society could be reduced by abortion and the rest of us would be better off.

Today, the trends in society give ample evidence to the faultiness of this thinking. Abortion has not solved problems. It has not even proved itself to be the handout that would confirm lameness. Excepting the Webster Supreme Court decision, all societal trends related to fornication, adultery and crisis pregnancy are measurably more negative. Even the voices who once spoke for societal convenience now largely argue the personal convenience of abortion.

Consider a few statistics. Abortion now claims the lives of more than 1.5 million unborn children every year. Of those who survive to birth, very close to 30 percent are born to mothers who are not married. Well over a majority of these grow up in homes that depend on public assistance for survival.

Twenty years ago 90 percent of children born out of wedlock went into adoptive homes. Today that figure has spiraled downward to less than 5 percent. The combined impact on adoption of abortion and single parenting is evident in figures summarized by the National Committee for Adoption: “Unrelated domestic adoptions have fluctuated tremendously over the past three decades from 33,800 in 1951 to a peak of 89,200 in 1970, declining to 50,720 in 1982 and now 51,157.”

The implications are staggering-whole succeeding generations of persons raised in financial poverty, most often accompanied by poverty of mind and spirit. Think of entire generations in which there are no positive male role models, in which as many as one-third of our nation’s children do not even know who their fathers are. Think of whole generations who knew no time when the practice of abortion was not the common practice of their society. Today’s teenagers, even twenty-year olds, have never known a time when they understood human reproduction without also knowing abortion as common practice.

Spend a little time in a crisis pregnancy center or with an adoption agency pregnancy counselor. You will see another dimension of the problem emerging very quickly: numbers are simple compared to the massive confusion of the personal lives of those represented by the numbers. Almost gone are situations in which a young woman from a stable Christian family finds herself pregnant because she and her steady boyfriend were “in love” and got too intimately involved. Instead birthmothers say very little about the Lord, about love, guilt or morality.

The challenge is great because it is all-pervasive. It’s literally right next door, with today’s trends setting an ever more destructive pattern for years to come. Where is the Lord in the midst of all this, and what does He say to His people? How is the healing power of the Gospel applied, addressing real needs without confirming the lameness?

Thankfully, alternative ministries to abortion are a growing movement in the Presbyterian and reformed communities. But some common misconceptions must be addressed. One is that stopping an abortion is enough, and we need not be greatly concerned with what happens after that. A leading secular women’s journal recently observed that evangelicals were saving babies from abortion only to place them on the welfare rolls. There is validity to that criticism. Another misconception is that parenting is automatically the preferred alternative since the woman is responsible for her actions. Therefore, the most biblical alternative is that she parent her child.

Attitudes toward adoption have fallen on hard times. In today’s pragmatic atmosphere, most women will be dissuaded from having an abortion much more by the availability of support in choosing another alternative than by even the most persuasive of moral arguments. The testimony of young women who make adoption plans repeatedly includes the observation in retrospect that they would have chosen abortion had this alternative not been available to them.

Among many Christians who are convinced that the practice of abortion is in all cases wrong, confusion reigns in the variety of viewpoints. What is appropriate for the person once she has decided that she will carry her child to term? Some are satisfied to confirm her lameness, putting her on the welfare rolls and considering the job done because the life has been spared. Others realize the inadequacy of this, but look realistically at limited resources for ministry and make a determination that the priority should be on sparing the life even if the quality that follows may be lacking.

What can we do collectively as the Lord’s people? A great beginning has been made through crisis pregnancy centers, adoption agencies and maternity homes. These need to grow. We need a constant study of the issues from a biblical perspective. We need a study of the trends, and communication of the needs to the Lord’s people. The Lord’s people must work toward greater availability of long-term alternatives to abortion. Birthparents ought not to have to consider going on welfare roles, but helped bear parental responsibly, or make an adoption plan. They must be adequately supported and directed as they move in one of these directions.

The cost of doing good is high. Whether it be to provide space and some administrative coordination to a ministry staffed largely by volunteers, or whether it be to support a professional staff with appropriate credentials for service. The cost is great. Crisis pregnancy centers, adoption agencies, maternity homes-all fulfill their essential roles in service to persons in need. All must be supported.The preceding list mentions only short-term remedial services to the already pregnant. Add to that effective educational serves that encourage abstinence, effective legal campaigns to bring changes in the law with regard to protection of life and genuine long-term rehabilitative services that would offer a young man or woman a genuine new start in life through training or education following a pregnancy. We have quite a challenge!

A popular poster asks the question, “How do you feed two billion hungry people?” The answer: “One at a time.” We are called to be humble stewards of the finite resources God places in our hands. The efforts of one or two individuals may not seem great, but particular lives are changed. And testimony is given to the world that the Spirit of God brings rebirth. Individuals by organized effort can minister to individuals, changing lives, one by one, through the power of the Gospel.

Bethany Responds to Webster

Although the implications are still unclear, the U.S. Supreme Court’s actions on the Missouri case this past summer have been welcomed by the pro-life community. From our initial reading of the decision., Roe v. Wade is poised for a major overhaul in the next few years. By upholding many elements of the Webster case, the Supreme Court has set the stage for states to begin proposing legislation that will provide similar and differing restrictions.

Bethany will begin examining state legislative actions in various states across the country and decide where we need more offices so that we can be readily available to either begin or expand the vital services that we offer to individuals and families.

While medical, philosophical and religious debates continue discussing when an embryo becomes fully human, and others battle over the “rights” of the mother versus those of the fetus, we at Bethany continue to minister to pregnant women who seek counsel and help.

We uphold the sanctity of life, but we are also deeply concerned about the quality of life. Each day we are confronted with the tragic results of children who are abused and neglected, many of them born to young parents incapable of providing basic care.

Bethany’s quality counseling and support are the factors that have made us the social service arm of the pro-family movement. With the current trend, thousands of women and men may begin seeking pregnancy counseling and exploring adoption as an option. This is our service and we must demonstrate our availability and accessibility. Remember, it’s one thing to talk the talk… another to walk the walk. Keep the sanctity of life in your prayers so that all children, born and unborn, can experience the quality of life.

The Gift of Giving

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By Calvin Miller. The wise men started it all, some say. Still, I like the way the Magi gave their gifts, for they presumably returned “to the East” without expecting Mary and Joseph to give them anything in return. Their gifts were meant for the baby Jesus, but there seemed to be no baby shower obligation in their giving. We never read that Luke wrote down the value of their gifts or entered them in the log of people to be thanked later. And we never hear that the kings were back home, feeling bad that no one ever came “from the West” to bring them presents.

Gifts are more blessed to give than to get, says the cliche’. But gifts are seldom given so freely that they don’t result in some bondage. Often at Christmas, gifts become a subtle power play, resulting in obligation. Such gifts may subtly say, “While my gift appears free, repay me in kind,” or “Enjoy this, Joe, but you owe me one now.”

A simple gift from a neighbor may say, “Just remember my generosity the next time I need to borrow you lawn mower.” The milkman’s gift may say, “I really need to keep your business, so don’t buy any eggnog from the Borden’s man this year . . . even though ours costs just a tad more.”

There are, in essence, only three kinds of gifts that one can give at Christmas: the gift-for-gift, the tit-for-tat gift and the genuine grace gift.

Gift-for-Gift

A gift-for-gift present is one that’s carefully measured against what the giver expects to receive in return. A gift-for-gift giver always keeps mental track: Now let’s see. The gift I’m giving cost me $13.95. I wonder what I’llget in return? This approach feeds cash registers all through December. It prompts the last-minute, Christmas Eve dash to the store to be sure some unexpected gift gets repaid in full. This syndrome also generates all those late Christmas cards. Some remote acquaintance surprises us on December 23 with a card that we can’t possible respond to until after Christmas.

Tit-for-Tat

The tit-for-tat gift isn’t motivated by a desire to receive a material gift in return. But the giver expects his present to smooth out some of the bumps of life. Such givers operate primarily in the arena of favors and obligation. At Christmas, bosses often lavish employees with gifts: liquor or expensive cheese-and-fruit wheels. They certainly don’t expect their employees to repay in kind, but they do expect less back talk in the office, at least through March. Their gift says, “Don’t forget what I did for you in December, Buddy-Boy!”

Grace Gifts

The best gift to give or receive is what I call the grace gift. I’ve picked this name because these gifts remind me of the lavish ways that I have received the love of God. Biblical grace, by definition, is a gift so immense, it is unrepayable. When you give or receive a grace gift, you are suddenly in the presence of something too immense to be repaid.

When he was only ten, my son Timothy knew my penchant for collecting Don Quixotes of every size and shape. He and his eleven-year-old sister were shopping when they found a huge unpainted Don Quixote in a plaster shop at an amazingly affordable price. He bought it and lugged it all through the mall.

He wrapped it as well as he could and put it under the tree. In a separate little package, he wrapped the paint and brushes. On Christmas morning, he opened the package and gave it to me. I was delighted. For the next two or three days, Timothy painted the monstrous statuette of Don Quixote charging into life astride his cart-horse steed. As long as I live, I will never forget that wondrous Christmas morning. His art project still stands on our hearth.

The uniqueness of his gift-and all grace gifts-indicates that the giver knows you very well and has put much thought and heart into the giving. You know when you are giving a grace gift, because your heart is saying, “Here I meet you at the place I know you best. You yourself are your gift to me. Nothing else is needed.”

Giving With Grace

Let me suggest two ways to give a grace gift.

First, be sure it’s impossible to measure the cost of your gift. My daughter’s Italian mother-in-law has taught her to cook authentic Italian foods. So when my daughter wants to please me most, she fills a bowl with meatballs swimming in her marvelous marinara sauce, and I am content through long winters. When the snow flies, one of her warm Italian sausage sandwiches says, “Dad, you are so special to me.”

Her love produces warm grace gifts from her pantry to which I could never attach a price tag. I know it cost her something to make these dishes, but their real value is the way they show she loves and understands me.

Second, realize that non-material gifts are the best way to say, “Don’t try to pay me back.” There are three types of non-material gifts.

One is what I like to call the koinonia or “togetherness” gift. Four years ago, my son was in the Green Berets and didn’t have the money to come home for Christmas. My wife and I could scrape together his air fare only if we didn’t buy each other material gifts. In the end, we decided our son’s airplane ticket was the grandest gift we could give. His fellowship was our present to each other.

Second is the leitourgia or “service” gift.

One of our young pastors who has a large family wanted to give us a Christmas gift. While we were away, he came to our house and spent several hours polishing all our shoes. December is a busy month and shoes get scruffy from lack of attention. He had given us real “foot-washing” kind of gift.

The third and most wondrous grace gift falls under the category of “spiritual gifts.”

One friend promised to pray for me all through the Christmas season. Another friend who knows I am fond of Shakespeare gave me a book of Shakespearean quotes from his personal library. Still another friend loaned me his favorite Christmas record for two weeks.

All of these gifts came with the assurance that Christ had prompted the gift and that it was given through Christ on the basis of our friendship. It was marvelous to see the Savior so involved in gifts that were not purchased, but given in the highest name of friendship.

I have most enjoyed giving spiritual gifts at Christmas. One of our older church members is like a mother to me. I could give her a material gift, or I could give her what she really enjoys. I take her to dinner, then we go back to her apartment and sit and talk and share in Scripture and prayer. No ribbons are taken from any package, but it is the greatest gift I could give her.

Just the other day, my daughter said, “Dad, let’s not give each other presents this year, Let’s just eat together as often as we can throughout December. I want to make December the month of our togetherness and the season when we hold the treasure of each other and not mere material things.”

I knew what she meant. So we are committed this year. These December days will be grace gifts. They cannot be paid back, for they are one-time offerings from four people who understand and need one another.

Did the wise men’s lavish gifts expect repayment? I think not. They gave and left Bethlehem with a glow in their hearts. Mary and Joseph understood: The gift was theirs. I cannot say what was in the hearts of the Magi as they made their way back across the desert, but I think their sentiment must have been what Paul wrote in 2 Corinthians 9:15: “Thanks be to God for his indescribable gift!”

What Does It Mean To Follow Jesus?

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When I was fifteen years old, I had a life changing experience. However, I’m not sure exactly what happened. Billy Graham came to town. It was one of those early crusades. He and his team were in St. Louis for about three weeks. Good thing for me. It was a week or more before I was willing to attend with my family. That was the first time I ever remember hearing the Gospel.

I grew up in the church. I didn’t like it, but I went, at least to Sunday school. But I was a trouble-maker. One teacher thought I was retarded. I may be the only kid in history to flunk Sunday school. My friend and I needed to be separated. We fought too much.

I joined the church. There were weeks of classes children had to attend. I learned the Beatitudes and the Ten Commandments. We learned the Lord’s Prayer. The pastor made a big thing out of that because he wanted us to say “which” instead of “who.” Amazing…the little things we remember. But I have no recollection of ever hearing the Gospel.

There could be at least two reasons for that:

1. It wasn’t presented. Maybe some in the church didn’t believe it or, at least, didn’t clearly understand it. It’s also possible that those teachers and leaders (including the pastor) assumed we knew the Gospel. Don’t skip over this! You may be in a church committed to the Bible and have any number of people (children and adults) who don’t really understand what it means to believe in Jesus.

2. The Holy Spirit didn’t tune me in. Because I say I didn’t hear the Gospel does not necessarily mean it wasn’t presented. It may have been pre

Five Steps to Discipling Others

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By Russ Korth. Discipleship always includes discipline. Both terms stem from the same root word. But people can be disciplined without being disciples. For example, they may faithfully complete Bible studies without allowing the Word to change their lives. But you, as a spiritual leader, must help people become disciples through their disciplines. Here are five steps to help you dis