Youth Ministries
Preventing Burnout
I have been in youth ministry long enough to know that arguing with your senior pastor in a public setting does not bode well for personal job security. Yet, for a mind boggling thirty minutes I was doing just that at a recent staff retreat. Oblivious to the obvious discomfort of the other staff, I plowed ahead as if the fate of the free world hinged on me winning this argument about a casual comment that had been made earlier in the evening. Now, I have also been in ministry long enough to know that I have certain indicators that let me know when I am starting to fall down the rabbit hole toward burnout. One of the first signs is when my ability to critique difficult issues and then come up with solutions turns into a hyper-critical spirit which leads to a tendency to want to argue, which leads to the need to prove that I am right, which leads to sitting on a couch in someone’s living room with twenty other people arguing with my boss.
For some reason, or perhaps many reasons, burnout is part of the DNA of the youth ministry profession. In fact, I do not know of anyone who vocationally does youth ministry for any significant length of time that does not struggle with burnout. I suspect this is true in other professions as well but in youth ministry, where experts tell us that the average length a youth pastor stays at a church is somewhere between sixteen and eighteen months, it feels to me like the burnout ratio is much higher than it should be. That leads me to believe that if you are in youth ministry, whether as a paid staff or committed volunteer, you will deal with burnout and your ability to deal with burnout will be one of the factors that determines how long you will work with teenagers.
I believe it was Benjamin Franklin who said “an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.” That old axiom provides some guidance for the youth ministry burnout scenario that I have been describing. By taking preventative measures, I believe that in many instances burnout can be stopped before it grows roots and chokes out your ministry. Here are four “preventative measures” others in youth ministry have recommended to me over the years that I have used to stave off debilitating seasons of burnout.
1. Learn your warning signs: My car has a warning light that comes on when something is wrong under the hood. Unfortunately, we do not have a little red light on our left elbows to let us know when we are burning out. However, you can learn your warning signs. One indicator that is tied to burn out in almost every case that I know of is spiritual apathy. When you catch yourself growing lazy in your devotional habits or avoiding time alone with God then grab the biggest Bible you can find (the heavier the better), tell the secretary that you are out for the rest of the day, grab some Starbucks (it has been proven that youth workers need a Starbucks cup close by to do their best thinking), turn off your i-phone and do what you know you need to do.
2. Find accountability: Far too few Christians seek accountability within the body of Christ. We were not designed to live our lives in isolation from the rest of the body. However, I often listen to stories of burned out youth people who talk about loneliness as a factor for stopping working with students. Finding a group of men who can probe into any hidden corner of my life, including whether I am burning out or not, has been one of the great blessings of my life. The Lord has used this group to pull me back from the brink of burnout more times than I can recount. Not having a similar group means that when burnout comes knocking you will have to deal with this unwanted visitor alone.
3. Do what you are called to do: My first mentor in youth ministry, Len Teague (Associate Pastor of Children and Youth at Lookout Mtn. Presbyterian) sat me down and told me that when he is starting to burnout he takes a student out for a meal or goes to a ball game or takes his discipleship group out for coffee. In other words, when he sits down with students and gets away from the office, he regains perspective on his calling.
4. Continue to grow: Len also made sure to remind me regularly that I could not take someone further than I had been in my own walk with Christ. When youth workers begin to burn out two of the first things to go are time in the Word and time in prayer. As I mentioned in point one, this is a sure indicator of a burned out youth worker. Personal experience has taught me that when I teach teenagers from an unhealthy place spiritually I do more harm than good. Not to mention the tendency to fall into destructive sin patterns when I am spiritually worn down.
One of the services CEP provides for the local church is confidential counsel for youth workers. If you are in the clutches in burnout or feel like you are heading that way, then feel free to contact me at dmitchell@pcanet.org or 678-825-1144.
Another way that CEP supports youth ministries in local churches is by providing leadership and worldview training for high school students. We do this through a conference network called YXL. With conferences at Covenant College on Lookout Mountain, one in Pennsylvania at Refreshing Mountain Camp and one in Glorieta, New Mexico, students can chose between three unique summer conferences. Each conference has its own leadership group and own program. For example, CEP runs the conference at Covenant College, but they all adhere to the same philosophy of training high school students as Christian leaders. You can find information about all three conferences by going to www.pcacep.org/yxl.
What is the tie in between YXL and burnout? I believe there are two. First, by identifying potential student leaders and sending them to YXL for a week for training you will be strengthening the youth program at your church. I know that is a bold claim. At YXL, we challenge youth to go back to their churches and become disciplemakers. I have seen in my own church that when students step up to that challenge, then youth ministry becomes easier. Second, you can come and spend a week with us either as a counselor getting rejuvenated by spending time with students (see point 3) or by spending a week at Covenant College recharging your batteries by hanging out with us, but not being a counselor and using your time to read, pray, reflect, journal, sleep, and relax (see points 1 and 4).
There are probably as many suggestions for preventing burnout in youth ministry as there are reasons that people burn out. However, at the close of this article, I would like to add one thing from the Apostle Paul in Romans 8 worth remembering when struggles with burnout come … 38For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, 39nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Targeting Comprehensive Christian Education
It never ceases to amaze me that anywhere in the world you say “Christian Education” people automatically think Sunday school. Is this the only Christian education the church does? If it is, then we are in big trouble. Let me explain.
In teaching the Christian Education (CE) courses in South Africa for eight years, the student’s first exercise was to list every church activity, i.e., worship, soup kitchens, Bible study, missions, etc. The challenge was for them to tell me which one was not CE! As you read further, that is my challenge to you, because the way you understand the educational ministry of your church will determine its spiritual depth. You disagree? Then my challenge is to prove my point.
Let’s start with missions. My contention is that missions is a sub-set of CE! What do missionaries do? They share the Gospel. To share the Gospel means to teach the meaning of the Gospel – this is CE! When there is a group of converts a church is started and training leaders is a number one priority. Training is CE! How about worship? Worship is leading people in worship to understand the importance of what they are doing. It is not only the sermon (which in itself is CE), but it is instructing the people to understand what they are singing and why. A well planned worship service is led by one who understands what it means to keep the people focused and aware of what they are doing. This too is CE!
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Think about every ministry in your Church. Is there one thing that isn’t in actuality Christian education in some way?
So what is the point? In any good education program there must be good planning and coordination. This is where it appears that many churches fall short in seeing the big picture of what is really taking place.
If you had asked your child’s teacher what she was going to cover that year, how would you react if told she will figure that out as they go along? Imagine 12 years of this? Would anyone ever get an education? Then why do we think that we can do this in the church? This leads to a further challenge.
I will use several examples:
Youth: What are they being taught? Why? What is the plan? What should they know, be, and do after 4 years? Or is your group like most, simply teaching one topic this week and another the next; somehow hoping they will eventually develop a healthy Christian worldview by themselves. Is this what you want for your young people who will be going on to university where they will be confronted with philosophies that are not only not Christian, but in many cases anti-Christian? Have you really prepared them? This is like that teacher with no plan.
Bible studies: What is being studied? Why this study? What are you trying to accomplish in this group and study? At the end of this study what will they know, be, and do? Think about this – if you have no objectives then your objective is to accomplish nothing. But you say, “Our objective is to study the book of Romans.” Great! But what does that mean? If you ask the group at the end what they have learned about Romans you might be shocked that little was learned or remembered. Worse yet, little has happened to change anyone’s life. The goal for CE (discipleship) must be transformed lives! If our only goal is to cover a book, or to know a doctrine, then true discipleship has not taken place. Discipleship is moving people ever closer (by the work of the Holy Spirit) to being like Jesus (Rom. 8.29). So I ask you again, in your teaching, what are your goals for your group becoming more like Jesus? Will they see Jesus in every verse? Will they grow in their relationship with Jesus as a result of interacting with Romans?
Another area focuses on – preaching. Are your sermons planned for the next year? Why not? What are you trying to accomplish? What really “scares” me about wellmeaning preachers is when they say they believe they are discipling their people through their sermons. That is scary because you have already told me that you do not have a plan for what you hope your sermons will accomplish. How does your sermon connect with other teaching going on in the church? You have one ‘goal’ for this sermon and another for the next. If your people don’t know your objective, how can you expect them to figure it out when you haven’t? This is not discipleship; this is a hit-and-miss approach to giving disconnected information, with no thread to help the people tie it all together! This again is like the teacher you would not allow to teach your children.
The Challenge of Discipling Youth in This Age of Indifference
American young people are, theoretically, fine with religious faith-but it does not concern them very much, and it is not durable enough to survive on after they graduate high school. One more thing: we’re responsible.
So begins Kenda Casey Dean’s book Almost Christian: What The Faith of Our Teenagers Is Telling The American Church (see the book review in this edition of Equip to Disciple). As one of the original researchers for the National Study of Youth and Religion and Associate Professor of Youth, Church and Culture at Princeton Seminary, Dean has been forced to come to the same conclusion that so many other researchers have come to: young people in our churches are not being discipled in a way that leads to active faith as adults. Here is another observation from Almost Christian: “Since the religious and spiritual choices of American teenagers echo with astonishing clarity, the religious and spiritual choices of the adults who love them, lackadaisical faith is not young people’s issues, but ours.” Let me add just one more pointed conclusion that comes from the National Study of Youth and Religion: teenagers mirror their parents’ religious faith…by and large parents get “what they are” religiously.
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Now those of us who hold to a covenantal theological framework for understanding God’s relationship with humanity are quite fond of pointing out the blessings for our children that come from God’s covenant promises to his people. Parents love that the promises and blessings extend from generation to generation. However, we tend to get a little squeamish when the topic of covenant “curses” comes up in relation to our faithfulness. After all to suggest that one’s lack of faithfulness might have generational implications is a pill that does not go down smoothly for many folks. So, in light of Dean’s findings, I would like to suggest another category for us to think about that lies somewhere between blessings and curses. I call this third category “generational consequences.”
To use a biblical phrase from Galatians 6, the church is quite possibly now reaping what we have sown. On occasion, I will hear people say something along the lines of “this current generation of young people is more biblically illiterate than at any point in church history.” Let’s lay aside for a moment the difficulty of quantifying such a statement and for the sake of this article take it at face value. If the myriad of researchers who have concluded that young people imitate the religious faith and actions of adults who love them are right and if this current generation of young people is indeed biblically illiterate, then it does not take much of an intellectual leap to conclude that the generational consequence of adult actions in regards to knowing and applying scripture is being seen in our young people. I suppose this is actually a simple mathematical equation: A (adult religious actions) + B (youth emulate adult religious actions) = C (generational consequence: biblically illiterate youth who are abandoning the church).
Thirty six years ago, Francis Schaeffer saw his generation moving from absolute truth, sound doctrinal positions, and biblical knowledge. With regularity he began exhorting the church to wake up to the potential outcomes of the slippery slope Christians were sliding down head first. One such occasion was The International Congress on World Evangelism in 1974 where Dr. Schaeffer presented a paper entitled Two Contents, Two Realities. This paper is now paired with his 25 Basic Bible Studies and published as a small book by Crossway. In Two Contents, Two Realities he warns “…if we have a latitudinarianism in religious cooperation, the next generation will have a latitudinarianism in doctrine, and specifically a weakness toward the Bible…We must have the courage to take a clear position.” Earlier in the paper, Schaeffer says that having strong doctrinal content is not enough by stating that “we must exhibit to our own children and to the watching world that we take truth seriously. It will not do in a relativistic age to say that we believe in the truth and fail to practice that truth in places where it may be observed…” It is disquieting that nearly four decades later many of the concerns of Dr. Schaeffer are coming to fruition. However, it would be egregious if the Church-the adults tasked with loving and raising the next generation-did not jump, holding tightly onto the next generation, from the sinking sand of biblical infidelity onto the solid foundation that is our only rule of faith and obedience; God’s Word.
The intention here is not to try to free young people from culpability for their apathy toward God’s Word by placing it totally on adults. Likewise, the intention is not to suggest that this generation of young people is hopeless. Instead, this should serve as a call to confession for being more akin to the “forefathers” spoken of in Psalm 78:8 who were a “stubborn and rebellious generation, whose hearts were not loyal to God, whose spirits were not loyal to him” more so than we are to King David in Psalm 71:17 who desired, even in old age, to proclaim the power of God to the next generation. It should also be a call for intercessors to plead with God on behalf of our youth that they are freed from the generational consequences of their forbearers’ actions. Finally, this is a rallying cry for adult disciplers to step forward to begin building this generation as “the generation of those who seek him, who seek your face, O God of Jacob (Psalm 24:6).” In my travels as Christian Education andPublications Youth and Family Ministries Consultant, the constant refrain that I hear from youth pastors, directors, and leaders across our denomination is “we need more adult leaders.” That statement is most commonly followed by this question: “why is it so hard to get adults to help with youth ministry?” While the answer to that question may be complicated, the generational consequence is straightforward…without adults to teach the scriptures and demonstrate faithful living to our youth, biblical illiteracy and church abandonment as young adults should come as no surprise to anyone.
I asked a group of adults recently who work with youth whether Bible teaching was the primary purpose of their church’s youth program or if the teaching was a part of the whole. In other words, do the programmatic aspects of youth ministry (games, singing, refreshments, etc…) exist to enhance the Bible teaching or is Bible teaching just one of many parts of the program? The length of debate following my question and the nature of the comments verified for me one of the secret fears that many of us who work with youth harbor: If Bible study is too deep, too frequent, or too long then youth won’t come. One of my concerns as it relates to this fear is that we not dumb down the scriptures in an attempt to make it more palatable, easily digestible, or relevant. If you work with youth in your church then you understand the tension here: if no youth come then there is no one to hear God’s word being taught but if they come and are bored then they won’t come back and then there will be no one to hear God’s word next week so I need to make sure to make Bible study short, funny, relevant and non-offensive. This is a classic youth ministry conundrum.
Perhaps the best solution that I can give to this conundrum is anecdotal evidence from two youth groups. The first is from Safe Harbor Presbyterian in Stevensville, MD. When the youth director, Christian Graham, decided to make significant changes in the youth ministry moving from a more traditional youth program to one that revolved around a deeper Bible study in order to better foster Christian community, he did so with some trepidation. Not that he was going to stop the occasional games and other relational activities but Christian wanted to elevate the Bible study within the program. The first week a grand total of 2 students showed up. That would be fine if there were only 4 students in the youth group but this was a decrease of over 30 students. Perhaps teaching Romans verse by verse to teenagers was not the best idea for growing a youth group. However, within a month the group had grown again to over thirty students who each week eat homemade waffles and then feed on God’s word together. The second is about the youth group at Carriage Lane Presbyterian Church in Peachtree City, GA. Assistant Pastor of Youth, Brian Cosby, began feeling like his students were hindered in their study of the New Testament by not knowing Greek. So, he did what all the latest youth ministry books say to do for growing your youth group; he offered to teach a Greek class. Expecting 2 or 3 of his more academically minded youth to show up, Brian was shocked when fifty youth showed up to learn biblical Greek in order to be able to study scripture more fully. As with all anecdotal evidence, there are always instances that prove the opposite to be true as well. So, I cannot suggest that youth will show up in droves at your church if you start teaching God’s word in deeper ways. Yet, I am convinced that as adults who are charged with discipling our young people, we must begin teaching in a deeper, more satisfying manner and then demonstrating with our lives the transformational power of the Word.
I confess, I have utopian like intentions for this article. In the part of my brain that I reserve for imagining the big things that God is doing among the next generation, I am right now imagining that if you are an adult who is not currently involved with young people in your church that the Holy Spirit is starting to tickle your imagination about becoming a discipler of young people or becoming an intercessor in prayer on their behalf. I am also dreaming if you are already discipling youth that you are beginning to think about deeper, more satisfying ways to teach God’s Word. I do not want to be just a doom and gloom prognosticator because I am praying first and foremost that this current generation of youth will become known as the “revival” generation but I fear the generational consequences to the youth of 2040 if the church does not heed warning signs in 2010 and begin to send more adults into the battle for the souls of our young.
2020 Vision E-letter September, 2010
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August/September
What is the 2020 Vision? Here at Christian Education and Publications we want to help the local church with training and resources that will enable you to spend this decade focused on training up a generation of Kingdom disciples. In both youth and children’s ministries we want our churches to ask the question, “What do we want our 4 year-olds to be like when they are fourteen? In ten years, what place do we want our 15 year-olds to have as young men and women in the church?” As we answer those questions together, we must become very intentional about the kind of ministry we will have in the next decade to realize our vision for the year 2020 – His church filled with strong Jesus men and Jesus women! PHILADELPHIA – OCTOBER 23 – CALVARY CHURCH, WILLOW GROVE ST. LOUIS – JANUARY 18-20 – COVENANT SEMINARY ORLANDO – MARCH 11-12 – ORANGEWOOD CHURCH Go to our website for more information and register today! The following article is a summary/report from the May 4th Meeting in Atlanta where ministry leaders met to talk about reaching the children and seeing the Gospel transform their lives. Eric Wallace is director of The Institute for Uniting Church and Home. Please finish reading the article online and give us your feedback.
If you are interested in learning more about 2020Vision, you are officially invited to our next MEETING OF THE MINDS on TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 14 at the PCA offices in Atlanta. The number is limited to 20 and there are already 13 confirmed “minds” attending. So, reply today to be apart of this strategic meeting. The emphasis is on recommending and developing resources and strategies for equipping parents in the task of discipling their children. Lunch is provided by CEP. 2020Vision RECOMMENDED RESOURCES for Parents, Leadership and Children
This book is being used in many of our churches as a tool for training parents in a small group setting. It does exactly what the subtitle describes – practically tells us ‘how the Gospel shapes and transforms parenting.’ Farley is deeply concerned that children raised in the church have grown up and left the faith. There have been thousands of books written on parenting but this one surely takes us to the heart of the problem.Read more…
After clarifying the goal for parenting and the basic Biblical responsibilities of the parent and child, Peace and Scott dissect the lives of our children and give practical instruction as it applies to the infant, toddler, preschooler, school-age and teenage child in the home. For a parent crying out, “Just tell me what to do!” this book is a wonderful answer to the cry for help.Read more…
This parent/student handbook is an alternative to the traditional age-based Communicant’s Class, offering Reformed and Presbyterian churches of any size a way to bring students into the church as communing members when they are ready. Read more…
If you do not yet own this children’s Bible, you have missed out on the top-seller in children’s books in the last two years. Why is everyone in children’s ministry so energized by this book? There are hundreds of children’s story Bibles. What makes this one special? Read more… |
2020 Vision Recommended Resources
2020Vision RECOMMENDED RESOURCES for Parents, Leadership and Children in your church:
Gospel Powered Parenting
By William P. Farley
This book is being used in many of our churches as a tool for training parents in a small group setting. It does exactly what the subtitle describes – practically tells us ‘how the Gospel shapes and transforms parenting.’ Farley is deeply concerned that children raised in the church have grown up and left the faith. There have been thousands of books written on parenting but this one surely takes us to the heart of the problem.
Drawing upon his two life experiences of reading the Word and raising his own children in the church, Farley has this observation. The results of parenting has nothing to do with wherethe child was educated or how regular was their church attendance. The common denominator between success and failure seems to be the spiritual depth and sincerity of the parents, especially the spiritual depth and sincerity of the father.
“In my experience”, writes Farley, “the most effective parents have a clear grasp of the cross and its implications for daily life.” So, this writer begins his book with the Gospel and its power in your life. This is the perfect beginning to his fleshing out of Godly fear, holiness, love and grace as it affects every area of parenting.
Church leaders and parents should read and study this book. The one conclusion from this book that can not be overlooked is this: We must teach our children. Delegating that task to others will not work unless we are first doing it at home. This seems to be the clarion call ringing across the evangelical church today. Gospel-Powered Parenting gives clear and practical teaching to the need of the hour.
This is a twelve chapter book and would be perfect for a twelve-week study in your church’s adult education program. There are several excellent Study questions at the end of each chapter. If you are a parent, read it. The Gospel is rich and will bring power to what you are doing in your home every day.
The Faithful Parent: A Biblical Guide to Raising a Family
By Martha Peace & Stuart W. Scott
After clarifying the goal for parenting and the basic Biblical responsibilities of the parent and child, Peace and Scott dissect the lives of our children and give practical instruction as it applies to the infant, toddler, preschooler, school-age and teenage child in the home. For a parent crying out, “Just tell me what to do!” this book is a wonderful answer to the cry for help.
My favorite chapter, however, is entitled Parents Who Provoke. I’ve heard sermons preached from the Colossians 3:21 passage. “Father, do not provoke your children lest they become discouraged.” But these authors bring understanding to all of the ways that we might provoke our children by defining sinful attitudes that teach our children more than we would like to think. Take a look at this list: The Despairing Parent, The Controlling/Angry Parent, The “Guess What the Rules are Today” Parent, The Exaggerating Parent, The “Must be Perfect” Parent, The “Fear of What Others Might Think” Parent. And the list goes on and on. This section of the book truly helps to identify sinful behaviors in parenting that so easily entangle us all.
These authors do an exceptional job at responding to all of the most-asked questions of parents with sound Biblical answers. The book closes with a wonderful instructional prayer and a directive on presenting the gospel with detailed scripture references.
If you are parenting or giving counsel to parents, this is a valuable tool for your ongoing study. Its eleven chapters full of questions to ponder and discuss would also be effective as a small group study on parenting.
Covenant Discipleship Parents’ Handbook
By Richard L. Burguet and J. Ed Eubanks, Jr.
This parent/student handbook is an alternative to the traditional age-based Communicant’s Class, offering Reformed and Presbyterian churches of any size a way to bring students into the church as communing members when they are ready. Covenant Discipleship gives the oversight of teaching the essence of church membership back to parents, providing them with the tools and resources to guide their children through the process of learning about the essentials of the faith, importance of church membership, and the core values and theology of a Reformed and Presbyterian church.
Jesus Storybook Bible
By Sally Lloyd-Jones
If you do not yet own this children’s Bible, you have missed out on the top-seller in children’s books in the last two years. Why is everyone in children’s ministry so energized by this book? There are hundreds of children’s story Bibles. What makes this one special?
“Every story whispers his name.” That is the subtitle and it is what sets this storybook apart from the rest. In the key stories from both the Old and New Testament, Lloyd Jones communicates to us and our children that Jesus is the Word. It is all about him. Most of us would say “of course, he is!” But as you begin to read these stories to your children, you will be convicted of the fact that many times you have taught these great Bible stories and have missed the point.
Here’s just one example of what Lloyd-Jones accomplishes throughout this wonderfully illustrated volume:
Many years later, God was going to send another Messenger with the same wonderful message. Like Jonah, he would spend three days in utter darkness. But this Messenger would be God’s own Son. He would be called “The Word” because he himself would be God’s message. Everything God wanted to say to the whole world – in a Person.
As I read these stories to my grandson, every one of them reminds me that he must see Jesus. He must know that the Word was written that we might come to know and love Jesus, the one true God.
Give this book to your children’s teachers. Give this book to your children’s parents and grandparents. While they are reading to the children, they will also be learning that “every story whispers his name.”